feat: autoDialer backoff implementation

[SgtPooki]

autoDialer should support configurable exponential backoff, or retry policies, for multiaddr that have consistently failed to establish a connection:

related to

• Connection Manager Overhaul #744 (comment)
• feat: auto-dialer max queue should allow specifying max queue per transport #1897
• bug: connection manager seems to have no awareness of pending connections #1898

[maschad]

Discussion from Open Maintainers call on 1/08/2023

Potential solution:

Penalize peers / multiaddrs via decreasing their tag value if dials are failing / rejected dials so that they are moved lower in the dial-queue.

cc @achingbrain