`disabledBehavior` support in TableView

[matthewdeutsch]

mimic disabledBehavior support in ListView https://react-spectrum.adobe.com/react-spectrum/ListView.html#disabled-rows

This state exists in the hook. Add a prop to make this behavior usable. The default (selection) will be different than ListView (all) for backwards compatibility.
Use the grey showing this styling from ListView for this in TableView.