STYLE pre-commit autoupdate, and other cleanups

[MarcoGorelli]

Summary of changes (separated out into separate commits for ease of review):

• run pre-commit autoupdate, bumping a few versions
• It's mostly using double-quotes in Cython files (cc @jbrockmendel 's suggestion in REF factor out parse_pydatetime from array_to_datetime #49866 (comment))
• remove some unused variables / imports from pandas/_libs/parsers.pyx
• rename variables named l, as that's a new flake8 check that disallows that, in:
  • pandas/tests/frame/indexing/test_getitem.py
  • pandas/tests/io/pytables/test_round_trip.py
  • pandas/tests/io/pytables/test_round_trip.py
• move black to local hooks, because like this it runs twice (!) as fast, as they now compile with mypyc
• add --verbose argument to CI job, so we can see how long each hook takes in CI
• move yesqa to the manual stage (so it only runs in CI), as it's kind of slow and unnecessary most of the time (I don't think I've ever had a local commit fail because of it)

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If reviewing, I'd suggest looked at each commit separately as they're each self-contained

[mroeschke]

IMO would be better if each commit is a pull request as it would be easier to revert a specific change if for some reason there was an issue with one particular change here

[MarcoGorelli]

that's a fair point - I'll split it up then, thanks!